Losing a child  / Jody Day (Dad)

Doody, FYI, there is no greater loss that losing a child. You never ever get over it. Not a day goes by that you don't regret that day ever happened! I personally found that coming here often depresses me. However, I'm pleased we all can come here when we need to.

I drive by Joe's grave everyday and wish! Sometimes I have a wave of emotions but no matter how a feel or what I could do he will never be back. That really SUCKS!  I hope you can deal with your issues that my son helped you with.  Always search for your truth and take accountability for your actions and you'll be well on your way.  

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i need u so bad right now bro..  / Doody (brothers for life )
im ina real bad way right now and need support and have no idea who to turn to.. you were the one person that had the biggest impact on my life, and now ur gone and i dont no where to turn.. im listining to our rest in peace song right now and its sucha honer to be ona song with someone like u.. someone so talented and gifted.. u did so much for me, u never let anyone mess with me.. not that i couldnt handle my own u didnt want me to get hurt or in anymore in trouble then i was.. u backed me up even when i was wrong, and it kills me knowing ill never have another friend as good as u.. no matter what it was u were there, u were there for me before the day u passed.. putting ur own problems aside to be there for me, and it kills me every day.. i just wish u were still here to be there for me u were sucha good friend it kills me to no your gone.. everybody else seems like u they have gotten past it, but i just seem to be stuck in the past.. we had such good times hangin out and u teachin me how to rap, i dont think anyone knows how amazing of a musician u were.. just because they didnt understand how hard it was, and i realize bro, i got u tatted on each one of my arms to remind me of what a good friend i had and still have.. i got into alot of stuff u would be dissapointed in, but i have nobody to there to tell me i shouldnt, and listined too... i miss u more then u could ever know i really do, it crushes me everyday.. and now im in florida i cant visit your grave regularly like i always did, me and jefff always came up there and cried together knowin what a good friend we lost... imy bro, im lost and need help.. please watch over me.. Rest In Peace.. Close

That Gave me goosebumps just reading it.  / Julie
Wow... I love it dad. It is so nice to see you open up to the possibilities that his is trying to communicate with you. You should try to communicate back. Close your eyes and call out his name and just sit quiet for 10 to 20 minutes. As you are doing this try to bring your attention to the center of your forehead and just watch the space in the middle of your forehead. You never know... He might just pop in for a visit. Close

Strange Things happen in this world!  / Dad Day (Dad)
I was lifting up the bed this morning so Doreen could straighten the middle support. After this was accomplished she ask ne to check the one at the foot of the bed. It looked like it had moved slightly during the middle centering so I gave the bottom of the post a little cuff and from out of nowhere a penny pops out and lands tail up. I thought that was weird for I didn't see it when I made to hit to the post. I picked it up and I had a feeling  I was going to see your birthyear on the face of the coin. Wow! 1986 was there but barely visible. I asked Doreen to verify I was really seeing this and she said when she read the date she got goose pimples. This may of been a fluke but I have had too many of these occurances to believe that. Although I seldom see you I appreciate you leaving signs you have made a visit. You are always in my heart!  Close

I got up this morning ..................  / Bill Day (Dad)
Wishing I could go back and change your destiny of five years ago today. The sad fact about a event like this is we can't no matter how much we wish we could. You locked the door and took your keys with you. Never will make sense and it's hard not to stop thinking about it. I think of you often Joe but I have refrained from coming here everyday because it wasn't  working for me. I go by where you're buried several times a day and usually drop in at least once every couple  weeks to say Hi to you Tam Dad and brother. You will always be in my heart! XXOO    Close

Dang it Joe I had a nice tribute for u and lost it  / Dad

Hey Son We'll try this again but you can bet I will copy it before I type in those stupid letters and numbers ithis time.

Anyway Son  you have been on my mind alot lately. I was in the hot tub this morning doing my ritual. You remember how that hot water and jets always made my artheritis feel better. I looked up at the clock and it was 06:30 and all of a sudden I realized exactly four years ago I went by Durgin road on the way to work. I remember looking down that road and recalling how dark it seemed. You don't know how many times I have wished I had went down that road that morning. Maybe I could of prevented our nightmare. I know I'll never know but I can't stop wondering.

Nan called me up this morning and asked me if I was going to be home. I had planned to head into Home Depot but I was thinking she probably had got the newspaper and read your memorian and was bringing it up.  When she got here she had two big Lobsters for me. I give her heck about buying those crawfish because they are so expensive and I know she can't afford it. If she had not already cooked them I would of had her take them back. No I don't think I would of had the heart to refuse them. LOL! Anyway She said because I have taken her to the doctors a few times lately she was rewarding me. I have to take her the end of the month for a invasive test. Her doctor who is a specialist told her she might have cancer of the uterus. I sure hope not but I told her maybe a historectomy could take care of it. At least I wouldn't have to worry about her getting pregnant anymore. That got a chuckle out of her.

After I got home from Home Depot I unloaded my materials and the started playing with Apollo who had been waiting patiently with the ball in his mouth. We played ball for about 10 minutes then it started getting dark so I told him we needed to go in the house.  He came over to me with the ball in his mouth and dropped it on my right toe then he ran in the garage to the house and the ball rolled towards the breezeway door. I went after it and noticed what looked like a plastic bag laying by the door. I picked it up and there were a beautiful bouque of flowers in it with a card. Wondering who sent us Flowers I opened the card which was addressed to the Days but no postage so someone must of dropped it off. Anyway this is what it said..........  

Thank you for raising such a good son. He was one of a very few people I have ever met that treated girls with respect and dignity. Thankyou!                             

                                     Love & Peace

                                         Heather

You can't imagine how proud I was of you. I haven't stopped crying since I read it but its happy tears.  Thankyou Heather for making a day that was headed south much better. Joe had several female friends named Heather and I don't know which one you are or if we had ever met but please feel free to drop by and visit us anytime you want.  God Bless You!

 

 

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long time no talk...  / Jessica DelVecchio (his "incredible neice" )
Hey Uncle Joe! It's been a very long time since I last wrote on this site or even visited your grave site. I've been busy with college life and all that but I want you to know that I have NOT forgotten about you! It's harder for me to go by your grave site than it is thinking of you. Probably because seeing your name on the tomb stone really makes it final that you are no longer here.. and I'd rather not think of that. At least when I think of you, or remember you, it feels like your just away to Mass. for a while or something. I'd rather feel like your temporarily gone, then permanently. =/

College life is great though.. I love URI, and there's some pretty cute girls down here I could've introduced you to ;] You could've rapped some pick-up line to them to be funny and made them fall head over heels for you yanno! You always had a way of attracting the girls..

But besides that, I've got some homework to catch up on, so I love you very much Uncle Joe and miss you to the high heavens. Tell Aunt Tammie, Nikki and my friend Matty Butler that I said hello will you? Let them know that I'm thinking of them as well.. and please continue to watch over Grandpa and especially Mom.. she's been going through a LOT lately and really could use both some company and support. She understands you now more than you think =/

Love always, Jessie
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Hey Son!  / Dad (Father)
Thought as much as I could about you early this morning. In some ways this deal still doesn't seem possible. I have a poem in my heart for you but I'm not quite ready to put it on paper. But when I'm ready you will get it. Love Always, Dad  Close

Thinking of you  / Kristin Reisinger

Hey Joe,

 I cant believe that it has been 3 years. I can still see you laughing and horsing around in the studio with Shane. I look at Shane now Joe and know that you had a huge impact on his life. I believe that people come into your life and in such a short time can make a huge difference and that was the kind of person you were. You made everyone laugh, if only we had known how sad you were. Your family has taken such a tragedy and turned it into so much good and I know that you must be so proud of all of them. I wont ever forget you and I hope that you are laughing and rapping your little heart out kiddo.

Love you

Kristin

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Hey son, Just got back from Downsouth...........  / Dad
and I had two dreams about you in the same night. One was a weird one that I have had once before. Be rest assured that I will always be here for you and will never let you go. Love, Dad  Close

Somewhere over the rainbow..  / .::Julie::.
Thanks for the sign yesterday. I said several times during the day yesterday I would love to see a rainbow and whala...we had the biggest most beautiful rainbow over my house last night. Everyone was amazed and then right after that... I had a myspace friend request from someone who goes by the screen name "Rainbow Angel" Now that just gives me shivers. I love you little bro...thanks for being there for your mom yesterday and me too cause I still miss you like crazy!!!! Close

Wow ...Son!  / Dad
Your stunt is in no doubt the biggest blunder my life has ever experienced. I should be able to get past this event by now but it is very difficult. I think of you often but I cannot focus long on you because my heart bleeds everytime I do. This bull is still unbelieveable! What a WASTE! What a Waste! What a Waste! Your life could of been so much better if you had wanted it to be! I heard the drug dealer that fed you addiction finally got busted. I pray he gets what ever he deserves and anyone else you help get you to  your your final resting place. Sorry to sound so negative but thats where I am right now! Love, Dad   Close

Hey man..  / Doody (Brotha)

Hey Bro, sorry i havent been on here for awhile.. I been rappin alot and hangin out with ya boy Jeff Staples.. haha ya you can only imagin what we been up 2..chillen and made a couple stops by Long Creek to.. haha not a fun time, but i no you were watchin over me. and helped pull me through it.. we should have a good Rest In Peace song comen out for you soon.. already have afew, but we wanna make this one special. well im gunna let jeff write ya somethin man.. ill be back on here to leave you somethin else.. RIP bro and ill never forget you. your always in my mind man. BFFL

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Happy Birthday  / Melissa Day (Sister)

Hey Joe,

Stopping in to say Happy Birthday sounds silly... What's Happy about a Birthday when you can't share it w/the Birthday boy? I still have so many days where I'm stop dead feet in my mind in disbelief you are gone... that we can never touch your/see your smiling face... I pray you offer some kind of presence to Dad... Give us belief that we will see you again/touch you again... I love you babe and miss you and Tammie so much.

xxoo

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I wish this were a Happy Birthday situation like it was long ago!  / Dad
Eighteen years ago today my dad died on your birthday. At the time I thought to myself that it must of been a good omen because he was very sick and had been for a long time. Years after on the 20th of January your birthday always over shadowed his departure. Now I am left with out you or him. That really sucks Joe. Sorry I can't wish you a happy birthday because you chose to give them up even though I strongley feel outside influences played a major roll in your demise. I still Love you and my heart and soul will always ache for you as long as I shall live. XXOO Dad Close

A special visit .....  / Bill Day (Dad)
Last night 12/22/07 we had our annual christmas party with our children, grandchildren, and their maternal parents Doug and Arline Leach. This is the second year we have all gotten together and exchanged gifts, enjoyed great food, and fellowship. A strange thing happened that I would like to share but up front I seriously have my doubts how this could occur. I've also never really believed in the bubble theory but something very strange happened that certainly has me wondering. Here's what happen ..... The small children were in our den in front of the fireplace opening their gifts when all of a sudden a small snowman that was hanging on a nob on our china cabinet fell to the floor. If you notice from the pic how the snowman was hanging you would most likely agree that there was no way it could just slide off. My son-in-law Earle Tripp was standing near the china cabinet when this happened and signaled to my daughter Michelle to take his picture. I see him making some signal to her but really didn't know what was going on. Later, I found out what had happened. The snowman was made by Joe in 1994 for Doreen for christmas. (See pic below) When Michelle took the pic of Earle there was a bubble  high over his  left shoulder and the cabinet is just to Earle's right . See Pics below.  Also I have enclosed a pic of Joe's family that misses him very much in the photo Album. Pic # 227
Merry Christmas to all!


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I'd like to say Thanks to those of you.....  / Bill Day (Dad)

that e-mailed me your stroies of relentless Joe. I'm sorry that you feel uncomfortable about posting them here but under the circumstances I respect your anonymity. Respectfully, Joe's Dad

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Stories across Territories........  / Bill Day (Dad)
My son had a RELENTLESS way of getting what he wanted when he wanted it. He just wouldn't give up until he got what he was asking for. He didn't win all the time with me but lets just say he won enough to never change his ways. Other Examples... Like on a new years eve he went up to his sister Julie's house in Cornish to spend some time with his nephew Shane. At 1:00 in the morning he talked someone into driving up in a Blizzard to pick him up and most likely because he was just bored. Another time he was bored at his Mom's house in Abbott. He talked his sister Michelle into borrowing $20 and leaving it on the front steps (Because it was late and she was going to bed) so that a friend could come by and pick it up for gas money to come get him 100 + miles away. I'm sure she never got it back either and probably never expected it. 

I have half expected Joe to talk the Lord into sending him back. He is probably still chewing on his ear into eternity.

Would love to have a story from anyone on this subject. I have overheard many of Joe's telephone conversations and I know they're out there. Close

If you feel what you say then say "What you feel"  / Bill (Dad)
Son, I do not need to come here to think of you. You are a constant that is always within me. I know you're not sitting in a easy chair on the other end of the web reading these thoughts that people that know you and Love you write here. I think this site is more of a way to relieve some of the stress of this event. Maybe even a avenue to say what is bothering them or even to question something that doesn't make sence. We have wonderful pics, video's, and most of your music here. Anybody that did not know you can surely know what you are all about from a visit here. Here I am sounding like I am talking to you again.

I come here often to see if anyone has lit a candle for you or paid you a tribute. I know exactly how many people have been here since my last visit. I have noticed that when there is controversy the visits increase substancially. It's like a  cyberspace rubbernecking.

As you all know this event SUCKS to no end. I truly am mortally wounded and do not see any light at the end of the tunnel nor do I expect to. They say time heals all wounds and in manys cases I'm sure it does but I know I do not have enough life left to fully recover from my sons foolish, selfish act. Its easy to blame on the drugs or alcohol but no blame can relieve the pain we all deal with each day of our lives. I've always been able to block pain by shutting the thought process off and focusing on hobbies, toys, ect. I can still get some relief this way but this nightmare is always just around the corner. I cannot shake it and maybe I'm not suppose to. There is no doubt in my mind what the "worst" part of life is all about.

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Amanda, just thinking if only...  / Doreen
Amanda I think you are right "it would be so much easier for everyone if there was only one memorial website where everyone came to remember Joe".   
But I don't think anything had been easy for Joe or his family's.  Joe was loved by so many people but it was just too hard for him to handle.  When family's fall apart so do the children.   Some it is easier for and parents are able to work it out so there are no battles that effect their children.  But that is rare!   Other's well, they are caught or are put in the middle with no way out, no will to try and fix it either.  This grows and becomes their whole world with no where to turn.  Joe turned to his music and in doing so I feel he tried to shut the love out.  He didn't want to really try to live the straight path that he knew was the right way.  Love was very hard for him to understand and he fought with his inner self agaist it.  Even when he would say  "I want to stay in school, I'm going to stop drinking"  there was a battle going on inside of him fighting the right way. He resented anyone who wanted to help him and work with him  This had gone on for a long time, building like a brick wall inside his heart and he struggled with this I believe daily.  That is why he turned to drugs and drinking.  That was his way out of the battle.  
This was not the fault of his mother or his father or anyone else;  although I am sure we all feel  "if only...".   We will always wonder why or what really happened, or how could I have stopped this from happing.  This will hurt forever in their hearts if only there was a way to help the pain?  Each of us need to turn to the Lord and pray for his help to cope with this in our own way.   This is a day that no one that loved Joe will forget.  They will always remember when they found out, what they were doing, where the were and "if only". Close